Ok, this post is going to be ‘triggery’ for some folks, as it tackles the topic of suicide. Please, if that’s something you can’t read, choose another post. Imp Memes are here, here, here and here. Monkey Issues is another funny one here
Matt Walsh is a blogger that I’ve read and commented on before. I agree with some of his ideas, not so much others. When I disagree, I tend to walk away, rather than get involved, because the chances of changing anyone’s mind tends to be slim to none, and if I want to feel like I’m banging my head against the wall, I have kids for that. I’ll go teach math or something, and at least have some chance of success.
Matt’s post, about Robin Williams…that was a problem for me.
Matt states that suicide is a choice.
Oh, Matt, Matt, Matt…we have a problem, here.
I can’t argue that suicide isn’t a choice, per say. Not in the dictionary definition, that it is an action taken by a person, versus another action.
I don’t believe that suicide is a choice any more than an animal in a trap has a ‘choice’ of chewing their own foot off to escape.
A person who is that depressed, that is in so much pain, that suicide seems like not only a viable choice but the only one left…that’s not a rational person, making a choice. It’s a desperate escape maneuver. It’s the action of a person so far beyond rational thought, behaviour, choice that to call it a ‘choice’ is insulting, its narrow-minded, it’s simplistic in a way that’s insulting. It’s insulting to those who have grappled with such incredibly dark depression, who have committed suicide, and to their loved ones left behind.
Nobody in their right mind decides that ending their life is the best option. Nobody in their right mind chooses death over their loved ones.
Key words there: in their right mind.
Those who attempt/commit suicide truly believe their loved ones are better off without them. Or, they’re in such incredible pain that ending the pain is the only thing that they’re able to consider. To be in such pain, that even loved ones don’t factor in to your thinking…There’s no words to describe that level of pain. When ending the pain, by any means, becomes all that you are able to focus on and gives you hope…an end to the pain is your only hope…that’s not a place of ‘making choices’. It’s a place of being reduced to a feral animal, who only wants, needs, to escape the trap and pain they’re in.
That’s not a place of making choices, Matt.
Do you really, in your heart of hearts believe that anyone would *choose* to take their own life if they saw any other option? If they had any hope at all of the pain being able to be dealt with? If there was something, anything, that they could conceive of that would make death a secondary option?
The law recognizes that people who are not of rational mind are not responsible for their actions. Calling it ‘a choice’ ignores that. ‘Choice’ implies that they are deliberately choosing suicide over another option. A person not in their right minds aren’t able to SEE another option. It’s not a ‘choice’ in that situation.
I don’t hate you, I don’t wish you ill, Matt. I do think that whatever history you may have with depression, suicide, mental illness has given you a very narrow lens with which you’re viewing this through, and has left you with a harsh, condemning perspective.
Suicide is not a choice. Not in the way you see it. Its the last action of a desperate, suffering, pain wracked, trapped, hopeless person. Its not a ‘choice’ when it’s the *only* thing you can see ending the pain.